It’s so easy to focus on the men, when we talk about sexual dysfunction. Most of the advertising targets men, questions their masculinity, and they have the most obvious and self-esteem destroying symptom of sexual issues. If a man cannot get it up, it often is a reason that they will punish themselves. Little time, little attention is paid attention when a woman is having sexual dysfunction issues, and yet it can be just as devastating emotionally and mentally, while physically it can cause pain and discomfort while some women try to ‘tough it through’ their sexual issues.
Let’s try to define a woman’s sexual dysfunction in a few more concrete terms though. Sexual dysfunction is not having a low or non-existent sex drive. We all go through times when we want more, or less sex, and do not have to seek physical intimacy to be satisfied with our lives. It also is not “failing to get in the mood” when your partner wishes to initiate sex, and you just are not interested, despite otherwise enjoying being in your partner’s company. These are mood, or emotional changes, and they can often vary at different times of your lives. These are not causes for sexual dysfunction; they can be part of a very healthy lifestyle.
When we discuss Sexual Dysfunction, we are talking about an urge to have sex, but an inability to do so pleasurably; this can include symptoms such as:
- An ability to show physical signs of arousal, including lubrication and physical signs of arousal.
- Inability or extreme difficulty achieving orgasm regardless of stimulation, or level of arousal. (You mentally want to cum, but physically are unable to do so.)
- Physical pain during sex, due to intense tightening of the muscles, spasm, or lack of thorough arousal beyond lubrication.
As with men with sexual dysfunction, there are as many causes as there are different factor’s in a woman’s life that may cause these symptoms. There are various physical causes, combinations of medications can cause these symptoms, and of course there are always stress and emotional issues that can inhibit sexual pleasure. Here are some things you should look at, if you are experiencing any symptoms that prevent you from enjoying sex.
- What kind of medications are you taking? Have you changed a medical regimen recently that has you taking antidepressants, blood pressure medications, antihistamines, or anything else that can cause blood flow issues? Even though women arouse in a physically different manner then men, much of the mechanics are similar, and anything that inhibits blood flow and saturation will lead to less lubrication, not to mention less muscular flexibility, which can make insertion painful.
- Have you gone through any hormonal changes of late? Menopause, birth, breast-feeding, and other factors can affect the hormones that affect arousal. Since birth-control pills use controlled doses of various hormones, they can also affect your ability to get aroused and enjoy sex. It may require a different type of birth control, or additional hormonal supplements to restore suitable levels in your body to normalize your sexual health.
- Are you under physical and social stress? This is the big one, and actually is the most common reason for male sexual dysfunction as well. When you are emotionally drained and stressed out, you may be unable to physically achieve arousal, no matter how much you wish to. It may require professional intervention and stress control techniques before your body stops reacting to the stress in your life.
Many women think that when they are uncomfortable, or do not enjoy having sex, they do not need it, or that they should “grin and bear it” for the sake of their relationships. There is no reason to take that mindset, this is a real problem, and it can have simple solutions, or medical solutions that you should discuss with your doctor. Everyone, male or female, deserves a fulfilling sexual life. You should not ignore the symptoms when they are having problems with your sex life.