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5 Surprising Life Lessons to Learn From Project Runway

Written By: admin - Dec• 20•13

Heidi Klum and Tim Gunn’s Project Runway wrapped up its twelfth season last Thursday, announcing Dom Streater as the final winner. The show, now nine years old, has hosted and celebrated designers in all different shapes and sizes – and each one has a strong personality to match their unique point of view. Despite any dramatic flaws that come to a head during the stressful competition, many of the designers also have very admirable traits, such as determination and endurance. Most of us aren’t fashion designers, but there are still a few surprising life lessons we can learn from the reality show Project Runway.

The drama queen never prospers– This season had a few “drama queens,” but Sandro and Ken took the cake. Of course, many of the designers get frustrated with each other, and all are encouraged to dish on each other for the camera. Yelling, swearing, and hurt feelings are common. Dramatic outbursts and temper tantrums? Not so much. In episode 4, Sandro became so frustrated with his “safe” position and lack of critique that he stormed out of the set and punched his camera. He was not up for elimination in that round, but was automatically kicked off because of his violence.

Later in the season, Ken threw a tantrum of his own, including a yelling match with the generally off-screen Project Runway talent manager. He was not eliminated because of his anger management issues, though it was enough of a problem that Ken was given special living arrangements and Tim Gunn arranged a powwow with all of the designers to resolve the issue.

The moral of the story – the drama queen has yet to last very long in any season of Project Runway. Temper tantrums may not get you eliminated, but they certainly reveal some deeper personal issues that might be holding the designer back.

Is this the hill you want to die on? – The fashion industry is often liberal-minded by nature, and Project Runway has shown designers with various political and spiritual belief systems. Timothy was this season’s activist, making a few waves with his passion for “sustainable” fashion. In the first episode, he abstained from makeup and almost any hairstyling on his model because they were not allegedly environmentally friendly (the makeup consultant later did some research and found out that the products were, in fact, up to Timothy’s standards, so Timothy used them in the next episode). He also never used a sewing machine because it ran on electricity. Instead of shopping for new fabric at Mood, he would dig through the store’s garbage to find scraps. Timothy’s approach was interesting, but it never translated well to his final product. His dresses were odd and simple; his fabric choices were ugly and low-quality. Although the judges respected his environmental commitments, he did not have the talent to pull off that kind of activism. He was eventually eliminated because he sacrificed the quality of his garments.


Great ideas can be crappy final products– Designer Justin did not start out strong, but Tim Gunn saw potential in him and saved him from elimination. The judges were not a fan of the unique glue gun materials on his garment. Nina Garcia said it looked like “a foaming vagina.” The idea was creative and original, but clearly it did not work in the final product. However, the judges loved his last “unconventional materials” challenge garment, which was made out of scientific test tubes.


Listen to advice from experts – Frequently, designers in the show are faced with the choice of either following the advice from the experts or forging their own path. Sometimes the judges are impressed by their creativity and moxy; other times, it’s a flop. Designer Jeremy had this problem. Consistently, his garments looked outdated. One judge proclaimed his final outfit to be too “soccer mom.” Jeremy tried to improve after this first critique, but just couldn’t figure it out.


Whatever you do – don’t try to bring back the ‘90s! – Designer Helen started out rough, but was a strong competitor throughout most of the season. In the finale part I, Helen was given a chance to compete with two other designers for a spot at the Mercedes Benz Fashion Week runway show. The remaining designers – Helen, Justin, Dom, Alexandria, and Bradon – were all sent home with six weeks to complete a full collection (about 10 outfits).  Dom and Bradon were guaranteed spots while the other designers had to prove themselves. When they returned to New York City, Helen’s collection did not make the cut. Justin, Dom, Alexandria, and Bradon all went on to compete in the last episode.

Helen’s final looks were just weird. This isn’t enough to eliminate a designer, though, as many different pieces displayed on the show have been bizarre. However, it just didn’t work for the judges. It definitely didn’t work for me. All of it was far too ‘90s, but not even the good part of ‘90s fashion. Helen’s creativity was impractical, not flattering, and kind of just an eye sore.


So that wraps up Project Runway season 12! Overall, it was a great season. There were endearing designers, gorgeous outfits, and lots of juicy drama. What more could you ask for in a reality show revolving around fashion?

What was your favorite part of season 12? And did you learn any surprising life lessons?

Ally is a University of Utah graduate with a knack for writing. She enjoys really nerdy things, cats, and Netflix. She currently works as a writer for Fibernet. Find her at

Alternative Birth Control Methods

Written By: admin - Sep• 18•13
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photo by by M.Markus

There are many forms of birth control available on the market today. Most of them have their pluses, and minuses, effectiveness, safety, side effects, and use in a sexual situation. When you investigate which birth control is right for you, remember to factor in all aspects when you try to determine which one works for your life. Most forms of birth control do not prevent STDs. Remember, your birth control choice may give you the option over when you are ready for a child in your life, if you are not with a dedicated, disease-free partner make sure you are using some kind of barrier that is rated to protect you from disease transmission. For those considering a birth control option, the three most common for women are:

The Pill: Yes, hormonal birth control pills are still the most common form of contraceptive used on the market. There are many forms of generic, and brand name pills, many of which use different hormonal cocktails to prevent pregnancy. Most use a three-week on, one-week off system, so your body has a chance to cycle in a ‘natural’ way. Several studies show now that most women don’t need to cycle once a month, and now there are several brands of pills that provide a three-month cycle instead. Depending on your sensitivity to the hormones, you might experience heavy spotting or heavier bleeding during your off weeks, and occasionally breakthrough bleeding during weeks you are on the hormones. Mood swings, and weight gain until you find a pill that works for you are also common, so be aware that when you choose a hormonal pill for birth control, it may take some time for your body to get used to the changes.

Tubal Ligation: Sterilization is still one of the most common methods of birth control, for women that have no interest in any more children. Modern Tubal Ligation is often an outpatient surgery, and in some cases, even reversible. Since the surgery prevents the egg from ever reaching the uterus, (as long as an experienced and reputable surgeon does the surgery,) the chances of reversion or pregnancy are practically none. This is, however, effectively a permanent solution, so for many women, this is not an option until they stopped having children, or it was required for a medical need. Like all surgeries, make sure this one is right for you, because it is not entirely risk free.

IUDs: Inter Uterine Devices, and implants are the second most common non-permanent type of birth control, that allows for full intercourse without a barrier. IUDs and implants are becoming more common as the hormonal doses and inserts become better. They do have slightly different methods of preventing pregnancy though. An IUD uses either copper or progestin to prevent pregnancy. The copper acts as a spermacide, while the hormone prevents the sperm from entering the uterus through thickening of the uterine wall. Both methods also create inflammation, which prevents an egg from implanting, should it get fertilized. The hormonal IUD can sometimes cause acne, minor headaches or depression, though those symptoms often fade over time. On the bright side, most IUD users also report lighter periods, or no period at all.

Contraception is one of the biggest choices a woman has to make. It is a question of how you want to plan your future, and control your body. There are options out there for any contraceptive need, whether you are with a dedicated monogamous relationship, or are still exploring what you want with multiple partners. Don’t let someone else dictate what works for you, and don’t make a choice without the education you deserve regarding all the options out there. If you have difficulties with some of these options, don’t forget, it’s also very easy to keep a supply of the good, old fashioned, reliable condom at hand, for when intimacy finds you otherwise unprepared.

What Men Want In A Marriage

Written By: admin - Aug• 22•13

Ok ladies, listen up!  You might be surprised to discover that truly committed men want the same things in a marriage as you do, with a few variations here and there.  There are a few things that universally appeal to a man’s heart.

I Want You To Be My Equal:

One element that makes men feel uneasy is when wives show signs of becoming less of an equal and more of a superior.  If a wife takes on more of a role where she is the leader or head of the house, men’s fragile insecurities start quivering.  Men are egotistical; and that’s perfectly fine as long as it doesn’t become narcissistic; and a healthy ego tells the man:  “You need to be the head of the house.  Part of your job is to make sure your wife and children are cared for and safe from the dangers of the world.”  Loving men want to be the ‘protector’ and made to feel they are the pillar everyone else can lean on for protection and reassurance.  This, also, flows over into men wanting to feel they are the primary bread-winners—again, providing for the family and meeting their needs.

If a wife comes across as being too domineering or too powerful, a husband can feel threatened into thinking his role of provider and protector is in peril.   If a man’s self-esteem is being tampered with, a whole slew of negative, unintended consequences can ensue including anger which can snowball into domestic disputes that take on a life of their own.  And the husband may not even understand that his anger is based on fear—-fear of losing his role as protector and provider.

Men don’t want wives to be beneath them, either.  Husbands respect a woman who has a mind of her own and perhaps a full-time career while juggling family responsibilities.  But the emotional needs of a man dictate that he wants that intelligent, independent, hard-working, loving mother of his children to want to lean on him to feel protected.

If wives are too powerful, husbands can feel threatened.  If wives are too subservient, husbands can feel bored and unchallenged and even unwanted.  Though it’s not a perfect world and though marriages aren’t created with perfect people, equality is what men want—equality with shared responsibilities and  shared decision making.  They want a wife who is their compliment, not their competition and not their robotic servant.

I Want To Know You Care:

Husbands are no different than their wives in that they, too, want commitment, communication, honesty, support and intimacy.  After all, men are every bit as human as women and peace and harmony within a marriage is equally as vital for a man as it is for a woman.

Now, ladies, this may bother you just a bit but don’t become too annoyed when you read this—are you ready?—mentally healthy men, deep down inside, want a wife who is reminiscent of their mother.   I can hear the “OMG’s” already, but understand what this really means.  A wife’s sexiness or positivity or ambition or smarts isn’t what I’m referring to here.  A husband should want a woman to be her own person without hoping it will remind him of his mother.  If a husband wanted his wife to be a dittoed copy of his mother, a number of counseling sessions would definitely be in order.  So, now that we have that out of the way, here’s what “reminiscent of his mother” refers to:  husbands want wives that can make THEM feel secure!  “How?”, you might ask.  Before I answer that, let me say one thing:  We are ALL products of our childhood!  I’ll say it again:  We are ALL products of our childhood!  There are no exceptions.    If we all go back in time to when we were a child and remember the meals that were prepared, the organization within the home as well as the encouragement and the support from our mothers, we remember those traits that are forever, mentally etched.  We craved those comforts that made us feel safe, loved, appreciated and encouraged.  Your husband is still a little boy in a lot of ways, and whether he would admit that or not is irrelevant.  That ‘little boy’ wants that same security knowing his wife loves him enough to prepare evening meals (there’s something very psychologically soothing about a home filled with the aroma of a meal being prepared), a home that feels organized even when kids’ toys are scattered or baskets of laundry are waiting to be folded and a wife who says and does even the simplest of things to make the husband say to himself: “My wife cares about me…”. 

As any marriage counselor like Heartfelt Christian Counselor would tell you, husbands want those feelings of being actively encouraged and supported by their wives—it’s huge!  It strokes husbands’ egos, but more importantly, makes husbands feel truly appreciated and loved.  Whether your husband is a CEO of a company or a burly, tattooed biker—men want to feel loved.

Unfortunately, however, there are plenty of adults who never experienced the kind of nurturing they deserved as a child.  Perhaps Mom was abusive or neglectful or unapproachable.  Many men who may’ve grown up in those types of dynamics, will crave, even more, the comforts of home they never had as a child.  A husband who never had a mom will privately say:  Please let me know you care!

I Want To Admire You:

Real men want to be a PART of their spouses’ life and not BE their spouses’ life.  If a wife has nothing going on in her world and her life revolves around her man, that man can become very bored and unchallenged with the relationship—a husband can even become angered with what appears to be a lack of ambition and independence on the part of his wife.   A woman who lives for her man or simply due to her man, is experiencing a deep sense of neediness and lack of personal fulfillment; and men find that very, very unattractive.

Women who can enjoy the intimacy of close friends, have intellectual interests, a high level of integrity, strive to be an equal partner in the marriage and enjoy making their husbands feel loved and appreciated—let’s just say real men find these traits very, very sexy!   Men want far more than a pretty face; and men who intentionally look beyond the surface are to be admired.  Though the ‘trophy wife’ mentality does hold true for some husbands, we are talking, here, about real men.  Real men what character! 


As the operational supervisor for an website marketing business, D.H. labors as a posting visitor in order to underpin the world of business from the U.S.A. He lives in SoCal, and is relishing the seasons alongside his beautiful woman plus their 3 cutie pies. Mr H.-man summons individuals to glance at his G Plus home when they get a chance.

Healthy Marriages Don’t JUST Happen

Written By: admin - Aug• 20•13

There are some beautiful things that happen in our lives that require no effort, whatsoever.  For example, it involves no work at all for a parent to love his or her child unconditionally, without end—it just happens without any strategy or effort.   However, raising that child does require an immense amount of endeavor and diligence.   The relationship with one’s child must be nurtured with love, respect and patience—and lots of it.   The same holds true for the relationship within a marriage—though the love we have for our spouse is easy, the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship requires key elements that serve to bond a marriage together.  If certain crucial elements are allowed to die, a marriage that was once super-glued can morph into one that is hanging by a thread.

As seen on Cornerstone Marriage and Family Ministries,  healthy marriages involve a myriad of components that are based on mutual respect, a good deal of insight and simple kindness; and here we’ll cover three elements than need to be in place. 

1:  Loving and Liking:

As any counselor for marriage would admit, Love is wonderful, but there’s another trait that parallels love and can be equally potent, and it’s called “like”.   If you enjoy spending time together and can say, “My spouse feels like my best friend”, you are to be envied since that is not often the case in many marriages.   Each spouse should truly enjoy each other’s company and have fun with one another without having to necessarily be in the company of friends or acquaintances.    

“Experts on romance say ‘For a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love.  For a lasting union’, they insist, ‘there must be a genuine liking for each other’.  This, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.”–Marilyn Monroe

2:  A Sense of Humor:

Humor can alleviate tension and stress and when used strategically, can actually de-escalate potential conflicts.   Spouses who can respectfully poke fun at one another and make each other laugh have a special bond.   Also, one has to be willing to laugh at him or herself and not take any number of things so seriously.  Having a light-hearted spirit can go a long way with keeping the laughs flowing, which is immensely therapeutic and has an emotional bonding effect.

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs.  It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.” –Henry Ward Beecher

3:  Communication:

Ahhhh yes, communication—It’s perhaps THE most important element of a healthy marriage.  It’s more important than sex, it’s more important than looks, and it’s more important than money.  No relationship can thrive without healthy communication.   Only a mere 7% of communication is verbal which leaves a whopping 93% of communication that reveals itself through body-language in one form or another.   Spouses who are insightful enough to grasp the mighty power behind the words they say as well as the power behind the body-language they portray, can harvest peace and harmony within the relationship.  The adage: “Sticks and stones can hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me” is far from true.   Hurtful words can pierce one’s soul and something as “simple” as rolling one’s eyes can create bitterness and resentment.

A husband and wife who choose loving words over hurtful words and who make a concerted effort to use body language that reflects respect instead of rejection possess the kind of wisdom so many others will never attain.  And just remember:  the way you communicate with your friends– with enthusiasm, engagement and laughter–should be the same way you communicate with your spouse!  After all, your spouse is your friend, too!

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, is to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”—Benjamin Franklin

A Healthy Marriage Is A Choice, Not Chance:

Liking your spouse and not just loving him, being able to see the humor in yourself and others and carrying on conversations even about the most trivial of things—these positive, nurturing components of a healthy marriage only scratch the surface. Other fundamental essentials include intimacy, shared interests, honesty, shared decision-making, empathy, having the courage to apologize and a willingness to forgive– the list is a long one.  Bottom line:   It takes effort, patience, love, insight and thoughtfulness to the Nth degree to overcome the national average of 1 out of every 2 marriages dissolving.  Your marriage doesn’t have to be one of them!  What you choose to say and how you choose to behave will guide your marriage in one of two directions.

“It’s tough to stay married.  My wife kisses the dog on the lips, yet she won’t drink from my glass.”—Rodney Dangerfield

And finally…

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness:  It means you’re in the wrong house.”—George Burns

One of the main resources Daniel uses to support U.S. businesses is guest posting.  As per his profile on Google + he manages a company called My Marketing Team.  In addition he loves his family, their sunny SoCal home and the Dodgers.  

Problems with Menstruation Be Linked to Thyroid Issues

Written By: admin - Aug• 13•13

Menstrual problems are an issue that concerns most women. Little do many people realize, is that the issues they are dealing with may just as easily deal with a thyroid issue. The medical community is unsure at this time as to what the connection between thyroid problems and menstruation is, but it is undeniable that females with hyperthyroid issues have issues with menstruation that includes heavier periods, lighter periods, changes in the frequency of periods as well as problems with females who do not even get their period.

Girls who have thyroid problems are known to suffer from puberty that starts early or is delayed. This includes alterations in the period as well as the type of menstruation that is experienced. Any of these issues is reason to talk with a thyroid specialist about what you are dealing with.

Two Issues and Your Period

The two main issues that will affect your menstruation are hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism. These are issues that will cause the thyroid to either be underactive or overactive depending on which one you are dealing with. Those suffering from hypothyroidism will have issues with the menstrual cycle that are indicative of issues with an overactive reproductive system. This includes such problems as early menstruation as early as the age of ten, lighter periods with very little bleeding as well as some instances in which there are no periods at all (amenorrhea).

Those suffering from hypothyroidism may suffer from delayed puberty and late menstruation. In some cases, the girls will not start having their period and going through puberty until after they are 15 years old. Periods are characteristically heavier than normal (menorrhagia) with instances in which pads are soaked in an hour or less for multiple hours at a time. The duration of the period will often last longer in these instances. Additionally, these patients may deal with dysmenorrhea, or a painful menstruation. This can include everything from bowel issues to headaches, feeling full, leg pains, nausea, low back pain and more.

Symptoms that Persist During Treatment

There are some women that will have symptoms that will persist even while being treated. This does not mean that the diagnosis was wrong, but more a suggestion that the treatment was at the wrong levels. This is when you will need to ask your doctor to test your TSH levels. If your TSH level is too low even while taking medication, it can cause you to have menstrual problems. This is even true if the medication you are taking is designed to lower your TSH level. By not having everything in alignment, you will have issues with your period.

The best way to make sure that you are getting a better treatment for your thyroid problem is to get tested at several times in your cycle. You will need to be tested at the estrogen levels, progesterone levels, luteinizing hormone levels, and follicle stimulation hormone levels. All of this will help your doctor to better understand what is wrong with you and how to manage your thyroid treatment.

Get Advice before Taking Herbal Medicines

There are many women looking to seek the benefits of herbal medicines to deal with menstrual problems. Keep in mind that while this is a natural way to deal with your problems, they may not be as effective as you had hoped they would be. Make sure you are talking with your doctor about what you are thinking about taking to get advice about how it will affect you. Always wait for a few days after you start taking these kinds of medicine before expecting to see a result.

About the author:

Dr. Michael Barakate is a pediatric and adult otolaryngologist located in Sydney, Australia offering thyroid and parathyroid information