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5 Surprising Life Lessons to Learn From Project Runway

Written By: admin - Dec• 20•13

Heidi Klum and Tim Gunn’s Project Runway wrapped up its twelfth season last Thursday, announcing Dom Streater as the final winner. The show, now nine years old, has hosted and celebrated designers in all different shapes and sizes – and each one has a strong personality to match their unique point of view. Despite any dramatic flaws that come to a head during the stressful competition, many of the designers also have very admirable traits, such as determination and endurance. Most of us aren’t fashion designers, but there are still a few surprising life lessons we can learn from the reality show Project Runway.

The drama queen never prospers– This season had a few “drama queens,” but Sandro and Ken took the cake. Of course, many of the designers get frustrated with each other, and all are encouraged to dish on each other for the camera. Yelling, swearing, and hurt feelings are common. Dramatic outbursts and temper tantrums? Not so much. In episode 4, Sandro became so frustrated with his “safe” position and lack of critique that he stormed out of the set and punched his camera. He was not up for elimination in that round, but was automatically kicked off because of his violence.

Later in the season, Ken threw a tantrum of his own, including a yelling match with the generally off-screen Project Runway talent manager. He was not eliminated because of his anger management issues, though it was enough of a problem that Ken was given special living arrangements and Tim Gunn arranged a powwow with all of the designers to resolve the issue.

The moral of the story – the drama queen has yet to last very long in any season of Project Runway. Temper tantrums may not get you eliminated, but they certainly reveal some deeper personal issues that might be holding the designer back.

Is this the hill you want to die on? – The fashion industry is often liberal-minded by nature, and Project Runway has shown designers with various political and spiritual belief systems. Timothy was this season’s activist, making a few waves with his passion for “sustainable” fashion. In the first episode, he abstained from makeup and almost any hairstyling on his model because they were not allegedly environmentally friendly (the makeup consultant later did some research and found out that the products were, in fact, up to Timothy’s standards, so Timothy used them in the next episode). He also never used a sewing machine because it ran on electricity. Instead of shopping for new fabric at Mood, he would dig through the store’s garbage to find scraps. Timothy’s approach was interesting, but it never translated well to his final product. His dresses were odd and simple; his fabric choices were ugly and low-quality. Although the judges respected his environmental commitments, he did not have the talent to pull off that kind of activism. He was eventually eliminated because he sacrificed the quality of his garments.


Great ideas can be crappy final products– Designer Justin did not start out strong, but Tim Gunn saw potential in him and saved him from elimination. The judges were not a fan of the unique glue gun materials on his garment. Nina Garcia said it looked like “a foaming vagina.” The idea was creative and original, but clearly it did not work in the final product. However, the judges loved his last “unconventional materials” challenge garment, which was made out of scientific test tubes.


Listen to advice from experts – Frequently, designers in the show are faced with the choice of either following the advice from the experts or forging their own path. Sometimes the judges are impressed by their creativity and moxy; other times, it’s a flop. Designer Jeremy had this problem. Consistently, his garments looked outdated. One judge proclaimed his final outfit to be too “soccer mom.” Jeremy tried to improve after this first critique, but just couldn’t figure it out.


Whatever you do – don’t try to bring back the ‘90s! – Designer Helen started out rough, but was a strong competitor throughout most of the season. In the finale part I, Helen was given a chance to compete with two other designers for a spot at the Mercedes Benz Fashion Week runway show. The remaining designers – Helen, Justin, Dom, Alexandria, and Bradon – were all sent home with six weeks to complete a full collection (about 10 outfits).  Dom and Bradon were guaranteed spots while the other designers had to prove themselves. When they returned to New York City, Helen’s collection did not make the cut. Justin, Dom, Alexandria, and Bradon all went on to compete in the last episode.

Helen’s final looks were just weird. This isn’t enough to eliminate a designer, though, as many different pieces displayed on the show have been bizarre. However, it just didn’t work for the judges. It definitely didn’t work for me. All of it was far too ‘90s, but not even the good part of ‘90s fashion. Helen’s creativity was impractical, not flattering, and kind of just an eye sore.


So that wraps up Project Runway season 12! Overall, it was a great season. There were endearing designers, gorgeous outfits, and lots of juicy drama. What more could you ask for in a reality show revolving around fashion?

What was your favorite part of season 12? And did you learn any surprising life lessons?

Ally is a University of Utah graduate with a knack for writing. She enjoys really nerdy things, cats, and Netflix. She currently works as a writer for Fibernet. Find her at

Alternative Birth Control Methods

Written By: admin - Sep• 18•13
birth control pill container

photo by by M.Markus

There are many forms of birth control available on the market today. Most of them have their pluses, and minuses, effectiveness, safety, side effects, and use in a sexual situation. When you investigate which birth control is right for you, remember to factor in all aspects when you try to determine which one works for your life. Most forms of birth control do not prevent STDs. Remember, your birth control choice may give you the option over when you are ready for a child in your life, if you are not with a dedicated, disease-free partner make sure you are using some kind of barrier that is rated to protect you from disease transmission. For those considering a birth control option, the three most common for women are:

The Pill: Yes, hormonal birth control pills are still the most common form of contraceptive used on the market. There are many forms of generic, and brand name pills, many of which use different hormonal cocktails to prevent pregnancy. Most use a three-week on, one-week off system, so your body has a chance to cycle in a ‘natural’ way. Several studies show now that most women don’t need to cycle once a month, and now there are several brands of pills that provide a three-month cycle instead. Depending on your sensitivity to the hormones, you might experience heavy spotting or heavier bleeding during your off weeks, and occasionally breakthrough bleeding during weeks you are on the hormones. Mood swings, and weight gain until you find a pill that works for you are also common, so be aware that when you choose a hormonal pill for birth control, it may take some time for your body to get used to the changes.

Tubal Ligation: Sterilization is still one of the most common methods of birth control, for women that have no interest in any more children. Modern Tubal Ligation is often an outpatient surgery, and in some cases, even reversible. Since the surgery prevents the egg from ever reaching the uterus, (as long as an experienced and reputable surgeon does the surgery,) the chances of reversion or pregnancy are practically none. This is, however, effectively a permanent solution, so for many women, this is not an option until they stopped having children, or it was required for a medical need. Like all surgeries, make sure this one is right for you, because it is not entirely risk free.

IUDs: Inter Uterine Devices, and implants are the second most common non-permanent type of birth control, that allows for full intercourse without a barrier. IUDs and implants are becoming more common as the hormonal doses and inserts become better. They do have slightly different methods of preventing pregnancy though. An IUD uses either copper or progestin to prevent pregnancy. The copper acts as a spermacide, while the hormone prevents the sperm from entering the uterus through thickening of the uterine wall. Both methods also create inflammation, which prevents an egg from implanting, should it get fertilized. The hormonal IUD can sometimes cause acne, minor headaches or depression, though those symptoms often fade over time. On the bright side, most IUD users also report lighter periods, or no period at all.

Contraception is one of the biggest choices a woman has to make. It is a question of how you want to plan your future, and control your body. There are options out there for any contraceptive need, whether you are with a dedicated monogamous relationship, or are still exploring what you want with multiple partners. Don’t let someone else dictate what works for you, and don’t make a choice without the education you deserve regarding all the options out there. If you have difficulties with some of these options, don’t forget, it’s also very easy to keep a supply of the good, old fashioned, reliable condom at hand, for when intimacy finds you otherwise unprepared.

What Men Want In A Marriage

Written By: admin - Aug• 22•13

Ok ladies, listen up!  You might be surprised to discover that truly committed men want the same things in a marriage as you do, with a few variations here and there.  There are a few things that universally appeal to a man’s heart.

I Want You To Be My Equal:

One element that makes men feel uneasy is when wives show signs of becoming less of an equal and more of a superior.  If a wife takes on more of a role where she is the leader or head of the house, men’s fragile insecurities start quivering.  Men are egotistical; and that’s perfectly fine as long as it doesn’t become narcissistic; and a healthy ego tells the man:  “You need to be the head of the house.  Part of your job is to make sure your wife and children are cared for and safe from the dangers of the world.”  Loving men want to be the ‘protector’ and made to feel they are the pillar everyone else can lean on for protection and reassurance.  This, also, flows over into men wanting to feel they are the primary bread-winners—again, providing for the family and meeting their needs.

If a wife comes across as being too domineering or too powerful, a husband can feel threatened into thinking his role of provider and protector is in peril.   If a man’s self-esteem is being tampered with, a whole slew of negative, unintended consequences can ensue including anger which can snowball into domestic disputes that take on a life of their own.  And the husband may not even understand that his anger is based on fear—-fear of losing his role as protector and provider.

Men don’t want wives to be beneath them, either.  Husbands respect a woman who has a mind of her own and perhaps a full-time career while juggling family responsibilities.  But the emotional needs of a man dictate that he wants that intelligent, independent, hard-working, loving mother of his children to want to lean on him to feel protected.

If wives are too powerful, husbands can feel threatened.  If wives are too subservient, husbands can feel bored and unchallenged and even unwanted.  Though it’s not a perfect world and though marriages aren’t created with perfect people, equality is what men want—equality with shared responsibilities and  shared decision making.  They want a wife who is their compliment, not their competition and not their robotic servant.

I Want To Know You Care:

Husbands are no different than their wives in that they, too, want commitment, communication, honesty, support and intimacy.  After all, men are every bit as human as women and peace and harmony within a marriage is equally as vital for a man as it is for a woman.

Now, ladies, this may bother you just a bit but don’t become too annoyed when you read this—are you ready?—mentally healthy men, deep down inside, want a wife who is reminiscent of their mother.   I can hear the “OMG’s” already, but understand what this really means.  A wife’s sexiness or positivity or ambition or smarts isn’t what I’m referring to here.  A husband should want a woman to be her own person without hoping it will remind him of his mother.  If a husband wanted his wife to be a dittoed copy of his mother, a number of counseling sessions would definitely be in order.  So, now that we have that out of the way, here’s what “reminiscent of his mother” refers to:  husbands want wives that can make THEM feel secure!  “How?”, you might ask.  Before I answer that, let me say one thing:  We are ALL products of our childhood!  I’ll say it again:  We are ALL products of our childhood!  There are no exceptions.    If we all go back in time to when we were a child and remember the meals that were prepared, the organization within the home as well as the encouragement and the support from our mothers, we remember those traits that are forever, mentally etched.  We craved those comforts that made us feel safe, loved, appreciated and encouraged.  Your husband is still a little boy in a lot of ways, and whether he would admit that or not is irrelevant.  That ‘little boy’ wants that same security knowing his wife loves him enough to prepare evening meals (there’s something very psychologically soothing about a home filled with the aroma of a meal being prepared), a home that feels organized even when kids’ toys are scattered or baskets of laundry are waiting to be folded and a wife who says and does even the simplest of things to make the husband say to himself: “My wife cares about me…”. 

As any marriage counselor like Heartfelt Christian Counselor would tell you, husbands want those feelings of being actively encouraged and supported by their wives—it’s huge!  It strokes husbands’ egos, but more importantly, makes husbands feel truly appreciated and loved.  Whether your husband is a CEO of a company or a burly, tattooed biker—men want to feel loved.

Unfortunately, however, there are plenty of adults who never experienced the kind of nurturing they deserved as a child.  Perhaps Mom was abusive or neglectful or unapproachable.  Many men who may’ve grown up in those types of dynamics, will crave, even more, the comforts of home they never had as a child.  A husband who never had a mom will privately say:  Please let me know you care!

I Want To Admire You:

Real men want to be a PART of their spouses’ life and not BE their spouses’ life.  If a wife has nothing going on in her world and her life revolves around her man, that man can become very bored and unchallenged with the relationship—a husband can even become angered with what appears to be a lack of ambition and independence on the part of his wife.   A woman who lives for her man or simply due to her man, is experiencing a deep sense of neediness and lack of personal fulfillment; and men find that very, very unattractive.

Women who can enjoy the intimacy of close friends, have intellectual interests, a high level of integrity, strive to be an equal partner in the marriage and enjoy making their husbands feel loved and appreciated—let’s just say real men find these traits very, very sexy!   Men want far more than a pretty face; and men who intentionally look beyond the surface are to be admired.  Though the ‘trophy wife’ mentality does hold true for some husbands, we are talking, here, about real men.  Real men what character! 


As the operational supervisor for an website marketing business, D.H. labors as a posting visitor in order to underpin the world of business from the U.S.A. He lives in SoCal, and is relishing the seasons alongside his beautiful woman plus their 3 cutie pies. Mr H.-man summons individuals to glance at his G Plus home when they get a chance.

Healthy Marriages Don’t JUST Happen

Written By: admin - Aug• 20•13

There are some beautiful things that happen in our lives that require no effort, whatsoever.  For example, it involves no work at all for a parent to love his or her child unconditionally, without end—it just happens without any strategy or effort.   However, raising that child does require an immense amount of endeavor and diligence.   The relationship with one’s child must be nurtured with love, respect and patience—and lots of it.   The same holds true for the relationship within a marriage—though the love we have for our spouse is easy, the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship requires key elements that serve to bond a marriage together.  If certain crucial elements are allowed to die, a marriage that was once super-glued can morph into one that is hanging by a thread.

As seen on Cornerstone Marriage and Family Ministries,  healthy marriages involve a myriad of components that are based on mutual respect, a good deal of insight and simple kindness; and here we’ll cover three elements than need to be in place. 

1:  Loving and Liking:

As any counselor for marriage would admit, Love is wonderful, but there’s another trait that parallels love and can be equally potent, and it’s called “like”.   If you enjoy spending time together and can say, “My spouse feels like my best friend”, you are to be envied since that is not often the case in many marriages.   Each spouse should truly enjoy each other’s company and have fun with one another without having to necessarily be in the company of friends or acquaintances.    

“Experts on romance say ‘For a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love.  For a lasting union’, they insist, ‘there must be a genuine liking for each other’.  This, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.”–Marilyn Monroe

2:  A Sense of Humor:

Humor can alleviate tension and stress and when used strategically, can actually de-escalate potential conflicts.   Spouses who can respectfully poke fun at one another and make each other laugh have a special bond.   Also, one has to be willing to laugh at him or herself and not take any number of things so seriously.  Having a light-hearted spirit can go a long way with keeping the laughs flowing, which is immensely therapeutic and has an emotional bonding effect.

“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs.  It’s jolted by every pebble on the road.” –Henry Ward Beecher

3:  Communication:

Ahhhh yes, communication—It’s perhaps THE most important element of a healthy marriage.  It’s more important than sex, it’s more important than looks, and it’s more important than money.  No relationship can thrive without healthy communication.   Only a mere 7% of communication is verbal which leaves a whopping 93% of communication that reveals itself through body-language in one form or another.   Spouses who are insightful enough to grasp the mighty power behind the words they say as well as the power behind the body-language they portray, can harvest peace and harmony within the relationship.  The adage: “Sticks and stones can hurt my bones, but words will never hurt me” is far from true.   Hurtful words can pierce one’s soul and something as “simple” as rolling one’s eyes can create bitterness and resentment.

A husband and wife who choose loving words over hurtful words and who make a concerted effort to use body language that reflects respect instead of rejection possess the kind of wisdom so many others will never attain.  And just remember:  the way you communicate with your friends– with enthusiasm, engagement and laughter–should be the same way you communicate with your spouse!  After all, your spouse is your friend, too!

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, is to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”—Benjamin Franklin

A Healthy Marriage Is A Choice, Not Chance:

Liking your spouse and not just loving him, being able to see the humor in yourself and others and carrying on conversations even about the most trivial of things—these positive, nurturing components of a healthy marriage only scratch the surface. Other fundamental essentials include intimacy, shared interests, honesty, shared decision-making, empathy, having the courage to apologize and a willingness to forgive– the list is a long one.  Bottom line:   It takes effort, patience, love, insight and thoughtfulness to the Nth degree to overcome the national average of 1 out of every 2 marriages dissolving.  Your marriage doesn’t have to be one of them!  What you choose to say and how you choose to behave will guide your marriage in one of two directions.

“It’s tough to stay married.  My wife kisses the dog on the lips, yet she won’t drink from my glass.”—Rodney Dangerfield

And finally…

“Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who’ll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness:  It means you’re in the wrong house.”—George Burns

One of the main resources Daniel uses to support U.S. businesses is guest posting.  As per his profile on Google + he manages a company called My Marketing Team.  In addition he loves his family, their sunny SoCal home and the Dodgers.  

Problems with Menstruation Be Linked to Thyroid Issues

Written By: admin - Aug• 13•13

Menstrual problems are an issue that concerns most women. Little do many people realize, is that the issues they are dealing with may just as easily deal with a thyroid issue. The medical community is unsure at this time as to what the connection between thyroid problems and menstruation is, but it is undeniable that females with hyperthyroid issues have issues with menstruation that includes heavier periods, lighter periods, changes in the frequency of periods as well as problems with females who do not even get their period.

Girls who have thyroid problems are known to suffer from puberty that starts early or is delayed. This includes alterations in the period as well as the type of menstruation that is experienced. Any of these issues is reason to talk with a thyroid specialist about what you are dealing with.

Two Issues and Your Period

The two main issues that will affect your menstruation are hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism. These are issues that will cause the thyroid to either be underactive or overactive depending on which one you are dealing with. Those suffering from hypothyroidism will have issues with the menstrual cycle that are indicative of issues with an overactive reproductive system. This includes such problems as early menstruation as early as the age of ten, lighter periods with very little bleeding as well as some instances in which there are no periods at all (amenorrhea).

Those suffering from hypothyroidism may suffer from delayed puberty and late menstruation. In some cases, the girls will not start having their period and going through puberty until after they are 15 years old. Periods are characteristically heavier than normal (menorrhagia) with instances in which pads are soaked in an hour or less for multiple hours at a time. The duration of the period will often last longer in these instances. Additionally, these patients may deal with dysmenorrhea, or a painful menstruation. This can include everything from bowel issues to headaches, feeling full, leg pains, nausea, low back pain and more.

Symptoms that Persist During Treatment

There are some women that will have symptoms that will persist even while being treated. This does not mean that the diagnosis was wrong, but more a suggestion that the treatment was at the wrong levels. This is when you will need to ask your doctor to test your TSH levels. If your TSH level is too low even while taking medication, it can cause you to have menstrual problems. This is even true if the medication you are taking is designed to lower your TSH level. By not having everything in alignment, you will have issues with your period.

The best way to make sure that you are getting a better treatment for your thyroid problem is to get tested at several times in your cycle. You will need to be tested at the estrogen levels, progesterone levels, luteinizing hormone levels, and follicle stimulation hormone levels. All of this will help your doctor to better understand what is wrong with you and how to manage your thyroid treatment.

Get Advice before Taking Herbal Medicines

There are many women looking to seek the benefits of herbal medicines to deal with menstrual problems. Keep in mind that while this is a natural way to deal with your problems, they may not be as effective as you had hoped they would be. Make sure you are talking with your doctor about what you are thinking about taking to get advice about how it will affect you. Always wait for a few days after you start taking these kinds of medicine before expecting to see a result.

About the author:

Dr. Michael Barakate is a pediatric and adult otolaryngologist located in Sydney, Australia offering thyroid and parathyroid information

Female sexual dysfunction

Written By: admin - May• 27•13

sexual-dysfunctionIt’s so easy to focus on the men, when we talk about sexual dysfunction. Most of the advertising targets men, questions their masculinity, and they have the most obvious and self-esteem destroying symptom of sexual issues. If a man cannot get it up, it often is a reason that they will punish themselves. Little time, little attention is paid attention when a woman is having sexual dysfunction issues, and yet it can be just as devastating emotionally and mentally, while physically it can cause pain and discomfort while some women try to ‘tough it through’ their sexual issues.

Let’s try to define a woman’s sexual dysfunction in a few more concrete terms though. Sexual dysfunction is not having a low or non-existent sex drive. We all go through times when we want more, or less sex, and do not have to seek physical intimacy to be satisfied with our lives. It also is not “failing to get in the mood” when your partner wishes to initiate sex, and you just are not interested, despite otherwise enjoying being in your partner’s company. These are mood, or emotional changes, and they can often vary at different times of your lives. These are not causes for sexual dysfunction; they can be part of a very healthy lifestyle.


When we discuss Sexual Dysfunction, we are talking about an urge to have sex, but an inability to do so pleasurably; this can include symptoms such as:

  • An ability to show physical signs of arousal, including lubrication and physical signs of arousal.
  • Inability or extreme difficulty achieving orgasm regardless of stimulation, or level of arousal. (You mentally want to cum, but physically are unable to do so.)
  • Physical pain during sex, due to intense tightening of the muscles, spasm, or lack of thorough arousal beyond lubrication.

As with men with sexual dysfunction, there are as many causes as there are different factor’s in a woman’s life that may cause these symptoms. There are various physical causes, combinations of medications can cause these symptoms, and of course there are always stress and emotional issues that can inhibit sexual pleasure. Here are some things you should look at, if you are experiencing any symptoms that prevent you from enjoying sex.

  • What kind of medications are you taking? Have you changed a medical regimen recently that has you taking antidepressants, blood pressure medications, antihistamines, or anything else that can cause blood flow issues? Even though women arouse in a physically different manner then men, much of the mechanics are similar, and anything that inhibits blood flow and saturation will lead to less lubrication, not to mention less muscular flexibility, which can make insertion painful.
  • Have you gone through any hormonal changes of late? Menopause, birth, breast-feeding, and other factors can affect the hormones that affect arousal. Since birth-control pills use controlled doses of various hormones, they can also affect your ability to get aroused and enjoy sex. It may require a different type of birth control, or additional hormonal supplements to restore suitable levels in your body to normalize your sexual health.
  • Are you under physical and social stress? This is the big one, and actually is the most common reason for male sexual dysfunction as well. When you are emotionally drained and stressed out, you may be unable to physically achieve arousal, no matter how much you wish to. It may require professional intervention and stress control techniques before your body stops reacting to the stress in your life.

Many women think that when they are uncomfortable, or do not enjoy having sex, they do not need it, or that they should “grin and bear it” for the sake of their relationships. There is no reason to take that mindset, this is a real problem, and it can have simple solutions, or medical solutions that you should discuss with your doctor. Everyone, male or female, deserves a fulfilling sexual life. You should not ignore the symptoms when they are having problems with your sex life.

Masturbation is Good for You

Written By: admin - Feb• 24•13


There is still a lot of stigma around women having sexual desires and needs and it is still sometimes thought that men are the ones who have the most needs. However, it is healthy for we females to masturbate and it is important to realize there is no shame or guilt associated in pleasuring yourself.

Not only does it help us to relieve any sexual tension but it helps us to learn from our own bodies what we like and don’t like. There are also many health benefits to masturbating.

Are you aware for instance that masturbation can help prevent you getting cervical infections and it will also help to relieve urinary tract infections? It is widely accepted that male masturbation can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men however; new studies have come out showing that regular masturbation can help women with cervical infections. This is because when women orgasm it opens up the cervix, this is known as tenting. When the cervix does this is stretches and pulls at the natural mucous inside the cervix, this lets the acid in the fluid to rise and this increases the friendly bacteria in the cervix. When the old fluid is expelled from the vagina it flushes out the organisms that can cause the infections.

Many women have reported that they feel the need to masturbate when they feel that an urinary tract infection is coming on. This is simply because the act of masturbation flushes the old bacteria out of the cervix and relieves the pain association with the infection.

Masturbation is also able to improve your cardiovascular health as well as lower your risk of type 2 diabetes. It was shown in a study that women who orgasm more whether by themselves or with a partner were at lower risk of cardiovascular disease and type 2 diabetes. Masturbation can also help you fight insomnia. There are many women out there who find that masturbation after a busy day will help them sleep, they don’t realize that it’s because masturbation releases the feel good hormone called Dopamine during orgasm and after the orgasm the calming hormones which are oxytocin and endorphins are released giving us a glow that will help us relax into sleep.

The last benefit of masturbation I want to mention in this article is that having orgasms will increase your pelvic floor strength. We all know that there has been many studies showing why we should have a healthy and strong pelvic floor but many do not realize that an orgasm will help by giving the pelvic floor a good workout. This is because during the orgasm the clitoris surges with blood and your heart rate, muscle tone and respirations increase. This makes your uterus lift off the pelvic floor which helps to strengthen the entire pelvic region.

There are so many health benefits to masturbation as well as the fact it feels so good; So why wouldn’t you want to masturbate? It’s good your health!

Myth – Men Think About Sex More Than Women Do

Written By: assistant - Nov• 30•12

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One of the biggest myths floating around about sexuality is that men think about sex a lot more than women do. That simply isn’t true. Maybe men just verbalize it more than women, which is fine, but that doesn’t mean women aren’t thinking about it at all. It’s important to know that it’s okay to think about sex. It doesn’t make you a dirty person, it makes you human.

One of the differences between a woman’s libido and a man’s libido is that women are more emotionally aroused and a man is more visually stimulated. A woman truly has to be in the mood in order to want to and actually enjoy having a sexual encounter. This is why you often hear about women wanting to have a room filled with soft candle light and fresh flowers filling the air with a sweet aroma. These are all things that help set the mood for a women.

Something that many people find surprising is that a Northwestern University study showed that women are aroused when they watch straight men and women having intercourse, which seems obvious. But straight women also get very aroused when they watch female-female sex and male-male sex. This shows that women do think about sex a lot, and they will think about sex with men, as well as other women, broadening their desires and yearnings compared to men. That is a lot of thinking! So the next time you are walking down the street and you see a pretty girl that is attractive and you feel that twinge, don’t get frightened. It doesn’t mean you are a lesbian. It means you are a women! So enjoy it.

Something else to think about is that women have a need for a plot. Desire doesn’t come from between her legs, but instead is between her ears. This is why women love romance novels. The anticipation and longing fuels her desire. This means women think a lot about sex, how they’d like to have sex, what sex would be like with a specific person—real or fantasy, and even where they’d like the sexual encounter to take place. It all goes back to having to be in the right mood or frame of mind to really have a great sexual experience.

Men, on the other hand, don’t need to have all that. They are pretty quick about the whole process. They can become aroused quickly, get the deed done, and then go back to what they were doing before it all started. That’s part of where the saying “wham bam, thank you ma’am” came from. For men, sex is the connection and for women, love and intimacy is the connection.

Yes, a women’s perception of sex, how she becomes aroused, and even the types of sexual thoughts that run through her mind are different then men’s, but it is a myth that men think about sex more than women. Women think about sex a lot, they are just not as verbal about it. And if you think about sex 500 times day or 5 times a day, you are perfectly normal. Sex is a natural part of the human life and you should never feel ashamed for living a sexual life.

Is It Normal to Have Fantasies?

Written By: assistant - Nov• 04•12

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Many women worry that they fantasize too much or that what they are fantasizing about is not normal.  They may even wonder if it is normal to fantasize about men and sex at all!  After all, if you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t need to fantasize…should you?

The truth is that fantasies are normal and they are a healthy way of expressing our sexual curiosity.  They help us decide what turns us on and what doesn’t. They help us discover ourselves as sexual human beings in a safe and healthy environment.  This discovery helps us emotionally and it helps us when we are in a relationship, too.

If you are in a relationship with someone and they want to try something new that you’re not sure if you like or not, try fantasizing about it.  Read some online stories. See if you get worked up about it.   Open your mind to the possibilities and imagine yourself doing that sexual activity with your partner.

But what if you’re not fantasizing about your partner? What if you’re fantasizing about a celebrity or someone you know or just some random stranger?

That’s ok, too, as long as you keep things in perspective.  Remember that it is just fantasy and that you aren’t going to act on it.  The key is not to let it replace your sex life.  When all you have is your fantasies it can become dangerous territory.  Your fantasies shouldn’t be the bulk of your sex life – just part of it.

The truth is that fantasies can be like a way of visualizing yourself the way you want to be in bed.  Have you always wanted to talk dirty?  Or maybe you want to put on a sexy strip act for your partner?  Or maybe you just want to feel less self-conscious about your body?  The sexual acts in fantasies are sometimes not as important as the way you see yourself in them.  If you see yourself as a beautiful, uninhibited woman in your fantasies you will be more likely to act that way in the bedroom (or in any other room that you want to be in). Fantasies can help you feel freer in your actual sex life and that can make it even more exciting for both you and your partner.

One more thing:  remember that fantasies are not real.  Only you can make them be real.  So if you’re fantasizing about being raped or taking part in a gang bang, don’t feel like it is something you need to try in your real life.  Don’t feel that just because it turns you on in your mind that it has to be tried.  Some fantasies are better left in your head.

So, have some fun with your fantasies. Try new things.  Be a different character that is more like what you would like to be like in real life.  Let your imagination go overboard!  Everyone fantasizes about sexual situations at some point so don’t guilt yourself about them.  Instead, let them add to your sex life!

Alaczen Review – Optimize Your Vaginal Health

Written By: admin - Jul• 14•12


Alaczen has been tipped to be the answer to vaginal yeast infections for good – so is it right for you? This Alaczen review gives you an honest and fair viewpoint to this probiotic supplement for vaginal health

What Is Alaczen?

Alaczen is a probiotic supplement that you can take daily to help combat those nasty yeast infections that can cause so much annoyance. It does this by balancing yeast and bacteria in your body with the inclusion of lactobacilli – Alaczen actually contains 48 billion live, friendly bacteria in each capsule, which is only needed to be taken once per day.

What Are The Benefits?

First and foremost, Alaczen is tipped as being the perfect fighter against Candida, aka Thrush. Thrush is simply a yeast infection caused by fungus called Candida Albicans – for most women this is constantly present, however certain conditions can cause Thrush to become apparent and cause that awful, uncomfortable feeling.

Alaczen rebalances the levels between yeast and bacteria to essentially prevent Candida and any related vaginal, bacterial infections away.

Continued use of Alaczen will potentially prevent any form of Thrush infection from coming back – the good bacteria will effectively cancel out any bad bacteria in the body and even if your body is under stress, Candida shouldn’t rise to the surface.

Are there any Side Effects?

The major worry with taking any supplements or medical products is the risk of side effects, whether they’re short term or long terms. So, if you were to hear that Alaczen doesn’t contain any side effects, would you be surprised? The great thing with Alaczen is that it’s totally 100% natural bacteria and therefore has been clinically proven to contain zero side effects. You can be rest assured that your body will be totally undamaged by taking Alaczen once a day.

Consumer Quotes

Here are a couple of testimonial quotes for you regarding Alaczen to put your mind at rest:

“I would only like to say that I have been free from infection for 3 months since I have been taking Alaczen. I’ve taken a lot of products and this is by far the best”

“I noticed a difference almost immediately. Alaczen has made such a huge difference in my life”.

Is Alaczen Recommended?

If you’re looking to get rid of your yeast infections for good, then Alaczen is highly recommended.

See more about Alaczen here

Not Able to Achieve Orgasm During Sex

Written By: admin - Feb• 06•12

lack of orgasmAccording to Shere Hite, a respected sex researcher, more than two thirds of women do not orgasm during intercourse at all. As alarming as that sounds, it should be noted that those same women do get orgasms from masturbation, just not from their partners. The causes of this particular phenomenon are numerous but none of them are medical and the situation can be reversed with a few creative ideas.

Lack of orgasms during intercourse can be attributed to many things like the fact that your partner doesn’t know your body as well as you do. If that’s the case then he can’t pleasure you as well as your fingers or toys can because he doesn’t know what your sensitive spots are and what angles in your love spot he needs to hit in order to get you off.

Another reason some women give for being unable to orgasm during sex is the constant use of sex toys over time. This seems far-fetched and there is no proof – scientific or otherwise to show that using sex toys affects one’s ability to orgasm during intercourse.

Love making patterns on the other hand play a huge role when it comes to achieving an orgasm. Humans are creatures of habit so the more familiar a woman is with her partner; the more routine the sex becomes leading to the spectator syndrome where the woman becomes more of a spectator in the sexual act instead of a participant. Following the same kissing and touching motions during each love making session does not guarantee an orgasm so you need to switch things up every once in a while in order to get the maximum satisfaction out of the experience.

As if all the aforementioned problems weren’t bad enough on their own, most women were raised to shun sex. This is a psychological issue that is very reversible. Women should start thinking of sex as a positive, fun activity as opposed to the dirty deed they were raised to believe it was. This change of perspective will eventually lead to orgasms during intercourse.

As far as sexual health goes, any orgasm is better than no orgasm at all even if that orgasm is a result of masturbation. However, if women want to orgasm from intercourse, they can do so by employing two simple tricks. Most men love to see women masturbating so women should be comfortable enough to spread out in front of their lovers and show them how they love to be touched and where they love to be touched that way their partners know how to give that elusive orgasm. If that doesn’t work, women can opt to have intercourse in the doggy style position with their lover thrusting from the back while the woman rubs her clitoris.

It’s not uncommon or unhealthy for women to orgasm during masturbation but not during intercourse and while it is not a medical issue, there are simple adjustments women can make to ensure they orgasm during love making.

Yeast Infections and Sexual Activity

Written By: admin - Nov• 23•11

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Yeast infections are something that many women have experienced or will experience at some point in their lives. A question that comes up often is whether or not sex is ok when a woman has a yeast infection.

The first thing you should understand is that a yeast infection is not a sexually transmitted disease. You can get a yeast infection even if you have never had sex before. It may seem similar with the itching and burning characteristics but it is not an STD.

One thing that could be a concern is small tears that can begin because of the itching. Sometimes the itching is so bad that a woman can’t stop herself from scratching and this can make microscopic tears in the walls of the vagina. These small tears could leave a woman more open to STD’s if she was to have unprotected sex. If a woman was to have sex with someone who does have HIV/AIDS those small tears would increase her chances of contracting HIV/AIDS significantly.

Even if a woman manages not to scratch when she has a yeast infection, the infection itself can cause irritations in the lining of the vaginal walls. These irritations also increase the chance of contracting an STD so it is absolutely necessary to use condoms if you are going to continue to be sexually active while you have a yeast infection.

Another concern that a woman might have while she has a yeast infection is whether or not she can give it to her partner. While this is not common, it does happen. Uncircumcised men seem to have a greater chance of contracting an infection when having unprotected sex with someone that has a yeast infection. They may get a rash on their penis. This can happen with circumcised men, too, but it happens more often if a man is not circumcised. If your partner experiences burning or itching or find that a rash appears they should get medical attention.

Finally, the last thing that women who have a yeast infection should know about sex while infected is that it could prohibit healing depending on what kind of treatment she is receiving. If she is using an internal or external cream, the in an out motions of sexual activity could cause the cream to slide out and be misplaced. This means it will take longer for the healing to complete. As well, the creams that are often used to treat yeast infections could be irritating to the man and may cause burning in the penis.

Sex and Menopause

Written By: admin - Nov• 03•11

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Life has a funny way of kicking you when you’re down and menopause is no different. You think you’ve just got the symptoms of menopause under control and can deal with them when out of nowhere you suddenly find that you’re no longer interested in sex and you lose your identity as a sexual woman. The loss of sexual desire is unfortunately a very common symptom of menopause with around 20% to 45% of women, reporting that their libido has decreased with the onset of menopause.

Let’s face facts here, some women are quite happy with the lower libido and don’t want to seek any type of treatment and yet more women are unhappy with the lowered libido but are too embarrassed to talk to their health professional about it. If you find that your lowered libido is causing problems in your life then do speak to your doctor about it, there are plenty of things you can try to bring the spark back to your sex life.

One of the common issues with the onset of menopause is vaginal dryness. When a women is feeling this dryness she certainly won’t feel like having sexual intercourse. This is where lubricants can be of some use. The lubricants will make sex more enjoyable and less painful. While this is not a cure for the libido it will provide some relief.

Hormone creams have been effective in some women. The creams contain the hormone estrogen which is what you lose as you go through menopause. The cream can be applied directly to the vagina to increase the blood flow, this will allow for increased sensitivity for the woman making sex much more enjoyable.

Another treatment available for those finding they have a lowered sex drive during menopause is Hormone Replacement Therapy (or HRT). This is still one of the most successful treatments for menopause. Though HRT won’t actually do anything to increase your libido, it will help to control the other symptoms of menopause that may be causing your lack of sex drive.

A fairly new treatment is Testosterone Replacement Therapy (or TRT). It has recently been studied and shows that testosterone plays a large role in the libidos of women. It has been tested by using a patch containing the hormone and showed that women wearing the patch had an increase in their libido by a huge 75%. However, this treatment is not fully tested or approved at this stage though there are similar therapies available.

The best thing you can do when you are experiencing any types of symptoms from menopause is speak to your health professional for their advice and try different things until you find the one that works for you.

Rekindling your Sex Drive after Pregnancy

Written By: admin - Jun• 09•11

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After having a baby it can be difficult to find your sex drive and begin to feel like the sexual woman that you once were. But you still are a sexual woman – it just takes a little bit of prodding and convincing to bring her out when you are covered in baby spit up and running around in your jammies all day long!

One of the things you can do to rekindle your sex drive is exercise. It is hard to feel sexy and attractive when you are still carrying around the extra baby weight. So, take some time every day to get some exercise in. Some new mothers like to put the baby in a stroller and head out for a walk with some friends. That way you get company and exercise. Other new moms prefer to do their exercising at home. Yoga and Pilates videos are great for new moms because they are not high impact and they are easy on those muscles but they are effective workouts at the same time.

It is important to remember that you mate needs you and you need him just as much as that baby does. Make sure to spend time together. Ask your husband to give you a foot rub or take turns giving each other back massages. Since you both have to get clean anyway, get in the shower or a bubble bath together. There is nothing like soap and warm water and slow caresses to get the sex drive stimulated and make you feel like a sexual woman again.

Finally, take sex off the table for a couple of weeks. It’s just a lot of pressure at first. Instead of thinking about sex, rekindle the art of flirting. Make eyes at each other across the dinner table. Put a sexy note in his lunch box. Kiss. Cuddle. Make out like teenagers. But decide not to have sex for at least a few weeks. By the time your no sex deadline comes around both of you are going to be more than ready to progress to the next step.

When you are ready to make love again, make a night of it. Go out for dinner and drinks (if you are breastfeeding remember that it should be non-alcoholic drinks). Play footsie under the table. Have candles ready to be lit in the bedroom. And go slow and enjoy yourselves.